“Men” Today


What’s up with the 20 something men today…no achievement…entitled..using..irresponsible…substance abuse….manipulation…

Over and over and over again I hear stories from my girlfriends about these great guys they are dating who are in school have a job and a car take them on dates smooth talk and are awesome.  Then the second they get serious move in together it all falls apart. And people wonder why we don’t want to get married.

Strong independent women keep getting reeled in by these guys. Do they have a class in high school or something that they learned how to snag us?

Did we miss the course on how to avoid these guys like the plague?  Were there warning signs we all missed?  Is there an infestation of them here in St. Louis? I don’t understand how so many of us got roped in and then WHY we find it so hard to leave when everything goes downhill.

If you know the answer let me know because there are a lot of us gals out here…

Back to Work

Can i just say how stupid the American system is when it comes to maternity leave.


I work for a small company with less than 50 employees, which means that they are not required to provide maternity leave for their employees. My company allows you to go on disability for 6-8 weeks with 60% of your income. That means, that I just brought a new child into the world that I need to provide for and I have to live for 6 weeks on half of my income when things are already tight…stupid


6 weeks is the minimum amount of time for your body to heal after a delivery…and your body isn’t even back to normal…and you are expected to get back to work. This period of time has NOTHING to do with the little human you just made.

My son is 6 weeks old, he eats every 3-4 hours…which means that he wakes up EVERY 3-4 hours. Guess what, I’m sleep deprived and I’m supposed to come back to work and perform over and above my job, because there is a stack of projects that were left completely untouched while I was gone. Not to mention that emotionally, I’m nowhere near ready to leave my baby for 8-10 hours a day.


Do you know how hard it is to get out the door on time with a baby who isn’t on any type of schedule. Yesterday it took me 3 hours to get ready for work..3! It takes me 15-20 minutes on a bad day to get from bed out the door!


Did you know that 6 weeks is a wonder week for most babies…that means that they eat every 30 minutes to 1.5 hours and are fussy and either sleep or are awake for long stretches at a time, and I’m supposed to be able to get to work!


I don’t think you should have to return to work until your baby is sleeping through the night and you can get into a routine. Maybe 3 months…and by then, I might be excited to return to work…

I’m going to return to being a debby downer now.